Wednesday, January 12, 2011
I am going to keep this first entry short. I have so much going on in my heart and my head right now surrounding my son that I could really get confusing and confused. But to put it all in a nut shell, I am discovering that I have a sensitive child. Anyone who knows us well is probably saying... "well, duh!". I have never stopped and taken the time to consciously be aware of this. I have talked a million times to different people about Ashton's sensitive temperament, his shyness, how much of an observer and a thinker he is. Some of these traits are wonderful and some are challenging. Lately I have felt much more challenged and it's made me sad, frustrated, exhausted and we have been going rounds. Now I think I know why.
A few different occurrences led me to our local used book store the other day in search of a specific book: The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. This blog is going to be about what I learn surrounding this topic and how it applies to Ashton and myself as his mom. I feel emotional about this right now but it is a hopeful emotion. Yes, with tears... but hopeful. Even in the last two days since I've picked up the book and read just the beginning I have had a more compassionate heart with Ashton, which has led to patience and much smoother interactions between us.
If anyone has a highly sensitive child (HSC is what Dr. Aron uses in her book so I will adopt that here as well), please chime in! I want to know what other people experience too. I've always loved that Ashton thinks hard about life and in detailed ways that amaze me. I want to stop rushing him through life (which I feel just started in the last couple of years) and help him use those wonderful traits to accomplish his goals and dreams. I also really need to learn how to help other people understand what it means to be a HSC and how to interact with him in a positive manner. I don't know the answers yet and I'm really hoping that this book will begin to shed some light. It already feels like it is.
Thank you for joining me as I learn and grow along with my little guy!
Love and blessings,